At the beginning of our wedding planning, my fiance and I discussed and set our big picture priorities. When would we have it? Who would we invite? What did we want it to be like?
Then I found a standard wedding industry checklist (there are more elaborate lists out there) which listed all the things “you need”. Some things, like a wedding license, I will need but many of the things on these lists, like glow sticks for the dance floor, aren’t necessary at all- who really “needs” glow sticks? After perusing the list, I proceeded to cross off everything I would skip entirely, add the things I would like to have, and mark the items that I needed to investigate further/beg for, borrow, or improvise with things I already own.
Here is what my list looks like:
Caterer -DIM (Do it myself), hiring people to help prepare, serve, and clean-up
Cake-Ask a friend
Cold Beverages -buy in bulk
Coffee –buy in bulk
Alcohol –buy in bulk
Staff- hire family friends to help
Table linens, napkins
Coordinator- Ask a friend
DJ or IPOD -still deciding
Additional decorations- minimal
Photography -Ask a friend
Wedding band for Groom
Invitations -print myself
RSVP cards –print myself
Postage –for invite only
Organist -maybe a friend?
Programs –yes, but cheap, cheap
Dress –from consignment
Alterations- friend helping
Shoes –wear some I already own
Bridal bouquet -DIM
Wedding day brunch
Bridal party gifts
Bridal party bouquets -DIM
Thank you cards –Use some I already own
Gifts for parents
Sparklers- discount after 4th of July from a state line stand
Lawn games- that we already own
Lace shrug- from etsy
As my sister pointed out, I have a lot of DIM projects but I think it'll be possible thanks to my wonderful family and friends who are willing to help. There are so many things that I would love to have but a tight budget means letting some things go. This list of priorities keeps me from buying things outside the budget and although I might fall in love with letterpress invitations or a stellar photographer, they're not worth the sacrifice of cutting loved ones off our guest list.